Good is the Enemy of Great

I had a big AHA this morning while watching this video on Procrastination and what actually causes it. In the video, Andrew Kirby talked about good being the enemy of great and then it hit me suddenly how THAT one statement underscores the difference between Lisa and I. She constantly shoots for great. Magnificent even. I constantly shoot for good enough. She wasn't like that in the beginning... the beginning as in when we first got together in 2006. She wa ok with good enough. But that wasn't her real self. The drive to be great, perfect even, was not only her basic personality, it was also molded into her by her dad. My parents didn't strive for perfection and THAT was what I learned. The difference grew when we got married and the gap got to the point where we started to lose respect with each other and we did not work together to accept the other as they were. THAT was what led to our relationship falling apart. Not her fault. not mine. It was BOTH of us forgetting how to respect the other. This A-HA moment comes as I celebrate the first anniversary of our divorce which was official exactly a year ago. All these timemarkers this week, and the stuff with Lisa in it is not exactly positive. And so I had to balance that by reminding myself that July 2006 remains the best time I have ever had. And that was because Lisa and I found ourselves pretty much spending every day together mostly at her apartment at th Orsini. Back then we were still running together, eating out together, doing everything. She wasn't working yet and neither was I having just left the dental school. I subsited on vacation money USC gave me. I remember it was something like $10K. And it was more than enough. I didn't think about the future, I just enjoyed the moment day-by-day with Lisa. No wonder I was so happy. And then of course there were those July months spent vacationing in Europe. Paris. Rome. Athens.  OK OK maybe those weren't exactly always good either. Some good experiences, some bad. But memorable to be sure. So really it hs only been the last couple of years <and of course July 2013> has there been some life-changing kind of event. Just that it has been the most recent. Boy I could sure use a quiet July 2020 huh? But so far this will be remembered as the part of the time of the pandemic isn't it? 

The picture I posted was of me taking a walk around the neighborhood in the afternoon. Actually I walked to Whole Foods right after the last phone call of the day, which was the Friday Huddle. I was thankful that the weekend had started. i was thankful that it was payday Friday and my bank account now has over $27K in it! I didn't do much work the rest of the day even though I had a couple of to-do's left on the table. Hey, remember this morning's a-ha? I'm back to doing good enough and minimum possible. That's because I have all these other things I would rather do. As in walking LOL. I must not be used to walking anymore though because I ended up doing a couple of miles <to WF and back> but when I got home, my left foot was sore. So much so, it took all I had to finish up the rest of my 11,000 steps, hobbling around outside. Uh-oh. Why oh why didn't I stick to my low-impact aerobics? Still I found enough energy to walk to Ralphs too and finish my grocery shopping. Hey this isn't NEARLY as bad as when I had those muscle aches way back in May. Besides it was still a nice Friday night out. At 6:30 PM it wasn't hot anymore. It's summer but it hadn't been heatwave hot. In fact, tonight a nice breeze was blowing. It was actually downright pleasant... as if it was a late spring Friday night. Anyway, I had bought some turkey breast last night at Whole Foods and tonight I ended up roasting it myself. Ended up with the main ingredients to my Friday night dinner of turkey wrap with spinach and babaganoush and tomato. Pretty nice and healthy eh? I did try to do those damned CTF applications and got through 1 working survey out of 6 I had to do. I figured I'd finish one and pretty much copy and paste to finish the rest. And then I tanked it. Hey it's Friday. Yeah i would like to say I can do it this coming weekend but I know better. Why lie to myself? it's ok, no need to push. No need to kill overwork myself right? I had my dinner and then watched the last 2 episodes of Snowpiercer including the Season 1 Finale on the Syfy channel app. And then decided not to binge watch too much. I have to be up early and be at Lisa's by 7:30 AM. The new Saturday Lisa workday routine such as it were. And I'm pretty sure I'm going to end up watching Johnnie for a good chunk of the day...