MLK Day off

Lesson of the Day: Altered states of consciousness --> If you can not control your state of consciousness you can not change the frequency at which you vibrate. If you can't change the frequency at which you vibrate you can not access the Law of Attraction.

I guess we'll be remembering MLK weekend 2020 as the weekend Lisa moved back into her house. And that I was a part of it all. In a nice way. I was already supposed to join them for breakfast this morning, and then supposedly I was going to watch Johnnie for a few hours so Lisa could continue with her move-in process without having to deal with him. Hard to get anything done with him around to be sure so I understood that. Selfishly it's yet another pocket of time that I could spend with him so I was all for it. And if the price for that was to have breakfast with mommy and son? Then I'm happy to pay. I got a call around 8 AM that they had just woke up and so Lisa wanted for them to take a shower first and asked me to come at 9:30 AM. No problems there. I relaxed and woke up gently myself. Had my Earl Grey tea and even made a stop at Whole foods to get THEM breakfast. I brought vegetable quiche AND bread pudding. The earlier we would get to breakfast that way otherwise we would have to get on Lisa's timetable and who knows when breakfast would be at that point. This was where we would usually clash. I wanted Johnnie to be done with his breakfast as early as possible and keep as close to routine as I could. Lisa was clearly off on one of her spontaneous day-off routines was completely unbound by time. Bringing breakfast I thought would be a nice meeting in the middle. I know Lisa still wanted to fix it. That was their routine. But then again I focused on the fact that she still had a lot to do. In the end, the meeting in the middle worked out ok. As in no conflict, no tension, no nothing whatsoever. That would have resulted in a fight a year or two ago. So I guess Lisa and I really HAVE made some kind of progress with our new relationship as co-parents. We had breakfast, talked some more and then I let her sort of talk herself into letting Johnnie go with me for the rest of the morning and through his afternoon nap time. THEN and only then did we get to go, and off to the apartment we went.

I shifted us into :Saturday: routine at that point. Johnnie plays with his dinosaurs, does a couple of drawings. And then we get some lunch at Panda Express. Only this time, we didn't get to head out until it was almost 1 PM since we didn't actually make it to the apartment until it was almost 11 AM already. Of course Johnnie and I would do some fun things too... see the pic of him playing baseball in my outdoor patio area. Also helped me kickstart getting my steps in for the morning. Not lost on me was that it was Monday. And I would usually be at work at this time. But since it IS MLK day, and I did have the day off, spending time with Johnnie doing whatever we felt like seemed like a much better alternative. This is what we would be doing if I didn't have to go to work I suppose. Except that Johnnie wouldn't be around either, he would be at school. Today we did go to Panda Express, and I did manage to get him to take a nap, although he didn't actually knock off until it was almost 2 PM. Look at the pic comparing last year with this year. Almost identical with the afternoon nap LOL. I read that last year Lisa had dinner with Jennifer Chikes and I had Johnnie for pretty much the entire day. The year before that I hung out with Johnnie too (2018) and then Courtney came over in the afternoon. Little did I know that would be reprised today as well. I brought Johnnie back to Lisa when he woke up around 3:30 PM. I figured I'd let her have some time with him until it was my regular time to pick him up this evening. That was when I ran into Courtney at Lisa's house. It was a good idea dropping him off though. It gave me a chance to get my steps in. I walked almost 3 miles to get to 11,000 steps by 7 PM. And then I made myself some beef stew. I made so much I had to bring HALF to Lisa's house. Maybe she and Courtney could eat it. As it was they had already had dinner when I got there at 7:30 PM. They had Thai food. That was another reprise from 2018. We had Thai food then too LOL. Anyway Lisa's house looked normal again. And her move-in was almost done. Finally. I thought to myself all this time I had spent with her this weekend was simply HER not wanting to do her move-in alone. And Courtney was probably not available until tonight. Lisa merely wanted someone to socially interact with I think. And when Courtney was there tonight, I was no longer needed and that was perfectly fine. I was there simply to collect Johnnie as per Monday routine. I did appreciate that my interaction with Lisa this time around was more than just cordial. It was actually pleasant. Definitely HUGELY different from past January's. And maybe the start towards finally emotionally recovering from that past for me. As for Johnnie, we went to the apartment and it was like regular Monday night. Cat-In-the-Hat, TumbleLeaf, chocolate cat cookies and milk. I did watch myself lose my temper and yell really loudly when he playfully tossed his sock into the toilet. OK so he tossed his sock in the toilet. Did I have to scream and yell? Why did I do that? Clearly I still have some more work to do... on myself. And I will. I have to. I actually apologized to Johnnie and told him I was sorry for yelling. These things are what creates his programs later on in life. I know that now. Fortunately the little episode didn't get him too upset. He just knew that I was mad. It was I that needed to go to my calm place. Which I did. Hopefully he learned. We both did. And MLK day-off 2020 was in the books.